The Life I Saw Before I Lived It: Choosing Me Was the First

The Life I Saw Before I Lived It: Choosing Me Was the First Step

Because God doesn’t give you vision without giving you direction.

Ok, can we be real for a second?

There were seasons where I would sit and daydream about the life I knew I was supposed to be living. Not just a better job or a new apartment—but a whole new era. One where I was healed, happy, held, and wholly myself. Where I

wasn’t waking up out of obligation, but out of alignment.

And the wild part? That vision wouldn’t let me go.

Even on the hard days. Even when I didn’t have the finances, the clarity, or the emotional strength.
God kept whispering, “This is not it. There’s more.”

And I believed Him.

👣 The Faith to Move Before I Felt Ready

Let me tell you something that’ll shift your whole outlook:
God doesn’t give you a vision just to tease you.
He gives it to guide you.

For months—honestly, years—I poured into everyone but me.
I played small in relationships.
I watered down my personality to make others comfortable.
I mothered, supported, clapped, served... and still felt unseen.
Until one day, I realized that loving others at the cost of abandoning me was not holy. It was harmful.

So I started doing something radical. I started choosing me.
Not out of rebellion—but out of reverence. Because this life I’m building? It’s not based on vibes—it’s built on vision. A God-given, peace-filled, heart-protecting blueprint.

Stepping Into My “Me Era” (Without Guilt)

I’m in a new season now—and I’ve named it “Becoming Her.”

I don’t mean the version of me who checks every box or never messes up.
I mean the one who’s finally done shrinking to stay safe.
The one who understands that choosing herself is an act of worship—not selfishness.

And this time? I’m not apologizing for it.
Not to friends who liked me better broken.
Not to family members who don’t understand boundaries.
Not to partners who never poured into me like I poured into them.

I’m choosing peace over pressure.
Purpose over pretending.
And I’m teaching my children that wholeness is the standard—not struggle.

And If You’ve Been Feeling This Too...

Here’s what you’re really saying (even if you haven’t said it out loud yet):

“I want a love that mirrors God’s pursuit of me.”
“I want friendships that sharpen me, not secretly compete with me.”

“I want my children to grow up around joy, softness, and strength—not survival.”
“I want to look around and see everything I prayed for—and know I didn’t settle for any of it.”

That’s the Saved, Fine & Fabulous life.
And the best part? You’re already becoming her.

✝️ Scripture to Stand On

“Write the vision, and make it plain…” – Habakkuk 2:2
God gives vision not just to inspire you—but to prepare you. Don’t dismiss what He’s shown you just because it hasn’t come to pass yet.

💭 Conclusion: Ma'am, What Would Happen If You Stopped Settling?

You already know what less looks like.
You’ve dated it. Lived with it. Sat beside it in church.
Now it’s time to lean fully into what God really has for you.

Let this be your turning point.
Let this be the day you stop making peace with the bare minimum—and start walking boldly in the vision He placed on your life.

Ask yourself this today:

📝 If I stopped settling today… what would I start saying yes to?
What would my life, my love, and my motherhood look like if it matched my anointing—not my anxiety?